Comments on: Confabulations: How do you show up in a conversation? http://divinecowgirlchronicles.com/2010/02/confabulations/ Thu, 12 Jan 2012 17:07:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: LeeAnn http://divinecowgirlchronicles.com/2010/02/confabulations/comment-page-1/#comment-44 LeeAnn Wed, 03 Feb 2010 00:11:31 +0000 http://divinecowgirlchronicles.com/?p=609#comment-44 Hi Sherry, Connection is made with sincere curiousity. When we inquire into what the other person is experiencing; the meaning they are making out of their experience and how that impacts relationships we begin to glimpse the inner world of another person. One of the greatest human hungers is to be seen and heard. It truly is a gift we can give freely. All of us want to be witnessed; to know our lives matter. When we slow down and breathe together we actually create a point of light in each other's lives. Happy trails, LeeAnn, The Divine Cowgirl Hi Sherry,
Connection is made with sincere curiousity. When we inquire into what the other person is experiencing; the meaning they are making out of their experience and how that impacts relationships we begin to glimpse the inner world of another person.

One of the greatest human hungers is to be seen and heard. It truly is a gift we can give freely. All of us want to be witnessed; to know our lives matter. When we slow down and breathe together we actually create a point of light in each other’s lives.
Happy trails,
LeeAnn, The Divine Cowgirl

]]> By: Sherry http://divinecowgirlchronicles.com/2010/02/confabulations/comment-page-1/#comment-43 Sherry Tue, 02 Feb 2010 14:54:11 +0000 http://divinecowgirlchronicles.com/?p=609#comment-43 This makes a great deal of sense to me. In the past I think I was more of a talker...yes I listened but I can't honestly say I put the other person first. Over the last 5 years my life has changed and so has my outlook. I now listen. I now start a conversation by asking "how are you" and it isn't just a standard question..I really mean it. I'll answer the other person's questions about me and then I go back to them and say "but how did that feel" or "what did you think when" and open the floor to the other person because I do care. So often we push aside what we think might "bore" others and yet we are hoping to have someone who cares enough to ask and to listen. When I stopped thinking with my head and thinking with my heart it all became so much more clear to me. It doesn't mean I get it "right" every time, but the intent is there and if I feel I haven't been present enough for the other person I make amends to make that happen. This makes a great deal of sense to me. In the past I think I was more of a talker…yes I listened but I can’t honestly say I put the other person first. Over the last 5 years my life has changed and so has my outlook. I now listen. I now start a conversation by asking “how are you” and it isn’t just a standard question..I really mean it. I’ll answer the other person’s questions about me and then I go back to them and say “but how did that feel” or “what did you think when” and open the floor to the other person because I do care. So often we push aside what we think might “bore” others and yet we are hoping to have someone who cares enough to ask and to listen. When I stopped thinking with my head and thinking with my heart it all became so much more clear to me. It doesn’t mean I get it “right” every time, but the intent is there and if I feel I haven’t been present enough for the other person I make amends to make that happen.

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