Point Of View

Posted by LeeAnn on June 7th, 2010 at 11:47am

To be successful with an animal requires understanding their nature, behavior and point of view. For example, horses are prey animals.  They respond with “fear – flight” when stressed or scared.  To best engage in a horse-human relationship, humans have to become aware of how the horse perceives them as predators.

To successfully engage in human relationships, also requires understanding a point of view. We can only truly understand another’s point of view if we are willing to give up our “idealized” version of the other person.

I recently participated a course called – Celebrating Men-Satisfying Women It turned my view of men upside down and has transformed how I see men in a brand new way. (and it has made it very difficult for me to watch the unconscious way women interact with men)  The creator of the program, Alison Armstrong, has a mission of transforming one million women’s point of view about men.  She believes we can move from dissatisfaction to true partnership with men and create peace between the sexes simply by truly understanding and engaging with the nature of men.   For the record, I totally believe her.

I have always loved men and yet I too have experienced dissatisfaction and misses in relationships.  In the few weeks since the course, my life has truly transformed.  I have had the most amazing connection and learning, simply by engaging in a way that sets up success for both of us.

How often do we set up relationships for failure by reacting to people as though they “should have” shown up differently? Women think men should be different.   Teachers think parents should be doing things differently.  The culture thinks teachers should be different.  Parents think their kids should be someone different.  Teachers think that students need to be different. I wonder what would happen if we gave up “should” and simply stepped in to their point of view??

I am so grateful that I found Alison’s course at this time in my life.  I am grateful for a deeper understanding of men.  I can hardly wait to weave what I have learned into my work.  I love the way new learning’s show up for me.  I love being a learner.

How about you?  Would you be grateful for a new point of view?

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