Conversations that feed the Soul
Posted by LeeAnn on January 31st, 2011 at 08:00am
Conversations are the connectors of relationship. Where we begin or end a conversation is where we begin or end a relationship. Relationships require connection and exploration through an interchange of thoughts; those thoughts are windows into our beliefs.
The interchange of thoughts can be life giving or life diminishing. Often communication is nothing more of a volley of words batted back and forth with little pause to dig into the real meaning of what is being shared. Instead, meaning is being made by the receiver without serious inquiry into “truth” of the assumed meaning. Instead of connecting or even bridging the possibility of connection, a canyon opens between the parties and distance is created.
Conversations that feed the Soul are interchanges of connection. Both parties feel seen and heard. We experience a sense of belonging to the human family. We touch what is real on this life journey.
I remember meeting a Russian immigrant who longed to return to Russia. While she didn’t long for the hardships and lack of material possessions, she longed for the depth of connection she found as part of the Russian culture. For her, America was a land of riches in “stuff” only. She found America to be in a state of anexoric connection or starvation of the Soul.
We are meant to be in relationship. We can talk about the car we drive, the stuff we own, which team won their game; however when it comes to talking about what is real or what touches our Soul we often choose cut off rather than letting another in. Our fear of judgment or of the vulnerability required to be seen and heard is just too great of a risk.
“A good friend is a connection to life- a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world” ~Lois Wyse
When was the last time you asked someone what their dreams were? What touches their heart? What makes them jump out of bed in the morning?
Soul to soul connection requires an intention to both reach out and to reveal. What kinds of connections would you like to nurture this coming year? It can begin with a smile, a moment of eye to eye contact. All that it requires is coming out from behind ourselves and inviting a human to human moment.
Horses connect. They allow themselves to be part of herd. Is it time for you to engage in the human herd?
Out on the trails of life,
The Divine Cowgirl
(photo credit: Aedo Pultrone)
Under Relationship+ With others+ With ourselves
1 Comment for Conversations that feed the Soul
1. Glad | January 31st, 2011 at 11:00 am
You’ve said here something I’ve been trying to articulate for a very long time.
We long for the connection that is sparked when conversation turns from mundane into “soul talk.” I am one who seeks out soul talk. I find that I either scare people away, or they are drawn to me like moth to a flame. I think they are not drawn to me, necessarily, but the energy they get when someone connects with them, soul to soul.
I get truth bumps (normally called goosebumps) when I feel the connection. And I know that the other person feels the energy, too.
I believe that connection is why we are here.
Thanks for this thought provoking post.
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