Invisible Fencing

Posted by Deb on January 12th, 2012 at 08:00am

Three of my cowgirl buddies and I were having our weekly breakfast to talk about all that wonderful “girl” stuff. We covered topics such as how our relationships were going with those big hairy beasts we live with (both the 2 legged and the 4 legged), the changing shape of our behinds as we “gulp” age, and always “how are you doing in general?”

One of my friends shared a story about a wacky friend of hers who wanted to test out his invisible fencing to see how it worked on the animals. He actually strapped the collar on around his neck and gave it a go. The resulting story was hilarious and had us all in stitches.

As we parted company, each to her busy day, the phrase invisible fencing kept rolling through my mind. My first inclination was to apply it to my life as something negative that kept me in and held me back from becoming who I wanted to be. Sort of an invisible fence of fear in my mind that kept me penned in.

As I thought about the idea of a fence around me I realized it was necessary. My fence is what helps me set healthy boundaries between me and the world I live in. It helps me sort out what is my “stuff” emotionally and what is not. It enables me to say “no”, with peace, when life attempts to crowd in on me with too many demands on my precious time. This wonderful fence keeps me at peace in the middle of some of the storms life can throw at you.

It is such a simple metaphor for good emotional health. How high the fence is and how far from you it is placed are choices each one of us gets to make. I like my fence, and after all, I own all the gates and get to decide who or what to let in.

Happy Trails,

Deb

(photo: Vainsang)

Tags: boundaries, deb divine, invisible fences, leeann gibbs, personal development

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